Seductive, Sexy and Spicy?? Recipes for Romance

                                                                      
                                                                        


Heyyyy Yall!!

Well I am back, and if you can't tell by now, my Blog is absolutely so random (like me) !!! There is not one thing that's off limits! Earlier, I  was sitting at work, daydreaming as usual and realized that I have had a lot of jobs that has involved, ummmm well, I can say it....SEX! I was once a PSO (google it) A LONG TIME AGO,  a Pure Romance  consultant for years, and now I am Prevention Counselor, educating our youth on how important safe sex and birth control is. Well anyway, I was wondering what I should Blog about and I got it....DING DING.... ROMANCE (lets call it that)! I know Valentine's day is coming up, but why should we have to wait to spice up things in the bedroom??? It really doesn't take a Holiday to make your mate feel special! I kinda think its appreciated a little more when you do it when they least expect it....So I came up with some great ideas (some I have tried myself I may add) That can help you along the way....hmmmmm where shall we begin......
                        
                         
                        Setting the mood

                                                  
Now, just because I haven't been a Pure Romance Consultant in a few years, doesn't mean I don't follow their products. I love them all! Mainly because they are fun and also very healthy for your body. All their products are Sugar-Free and safe to use anywhere. Please Ladies, I work in the medical field and trust me, BE AWARE of what you use on, in and near your body! All fun is not GOOD for your no-no special place! I have seen and heard everything in my field!!! Please RESEARCH!!!!  Anywho, I contacted my favorite Pr Consultant Kelia Doucet and she keeps me updated on the hottest new products!!!! So here's her Top Recommendations that would definitely get you and your partner in the mood :-)
                     

                                                                                                                   Sensations

Sensations™ lubricant starts cool, warms up, and finishes hot! Out of the bottle, Sensations™ feels cool on the skin. Add a little friction, and the lubricant warms. Give a gentle blow, and the air activated formula delivers exciting heat. This product can get a little intense! Great for massages or just use it foreplay and it comes in different flavors (Yummmm)

 

                                                                      

                                   BODY DEW

                                                                             
This gentle moisturizer is infused with beneficial carnation oil; a spritz after each shower will keep your skin feeling softer than ever feeling sexier than ever and ready for any special evening

                                   JUST LIKE ME

Just Like Me® is the lubricant that feels just like your natural moisture! Perfectly imitate lubricant with this pH balanced, water based lubricant. The consistency is smooth and easy to control, with its mild and gentle formula. Just Like Me® adds a sensual atmosphere to any activity!

 

 

GREAT HEAD

 

                       Great Head is a must if oral favors feel like all labor, no love! Great Head’s delicious kissability can make oral lovemaking more enjoyable, but there’s more—the unique strawberry formula helps keep you comfortable every time you perform oral favors. He’ll love Great Head, too, thanks to the ultra slippery sensation

 

Geez, I can boast about these products all night, But I'll leave the rest of the research to you (You gotta do some work)     Check out her website or contact Kelia Doucet for additional info about ordering or hosting your own party!
                                                                www.keliadoucet.pureromance.com
                                                                                   313.207.3003


Now, where we, Oh ROMANCE....NEXT

                                                 SETTING THE SCENE

 

Yessssssssssss! My favorite! Scene Setting! 

                            Anyone can go straight to the bedroom, BUT why not spice things up  just a tiny bit.  

Lingerie is a cute idea, but how quick does that come off (or stay on, if that's what your into) ....And plus its only  so much lingerie you can purchase before you feel like its really a waste of money ($80 bucks and you wore it for 3 minutes, bummer) . Here's some fun and sexy ideas that can get get the things started and I'm sure making it a night to remember! Let me express,  this can sometimes take some preparation and time! Put some effort into it, and I'm sure it will not go unnoticed ;-) What better way to do so......ROLE PLAYING!!!! 

The luxury call girl and the client ( or hooker and John, no need to be fancy)

You're so sexy and such an expert in what you do that your man is willing to pay a lot just for you!!!! For you, anything is permitted: provocative clothing, daring techniques, dirty talk… but no kissing. Why not arrange to find him, alone, sat at the bar of a classy hotel? Act out the scenario then return home to seal the deal!

Why it so hot?
You're the call girl who knows how to please, seduce, keep a man begging...remain in character and make him pay up! (no really! and don't give it back!!!! ) Not being able to kiss you will drive your lover mad with desire.

warning!!!
Please don't do this in the streets! Someone I know ( that shall remain nameless) actually walked the mean streets of Detroit in Red thigh high boots (dedication I know) to remain in character! This is NOT recommended!!! I repeat! It does not require this much dedication! geeez

The Damsel in distress

Omg, Your car has broken down, your cell phone is dead!!!  Here you are all dressed in your sexiest stilettos and mini and Stranded!!!   What do you do??? You go to the first door you see and ask for help!  Who comes to the door, someone sexy and definitely worth asking for assistance. You introduce yourself, give a flirty smile, and ask for his help. After He invites you in it takes several hours for Roadside Assistance to come to your rescue. You indulge in his company while you wait, share some laughs, personal stories as if you never met, and after a few glasses of wine, well that car will be the last of your worries!

 

 Why it so hot??

Instantaneous sex; the promiscuity (you need more than that) I don't think so!

The Repairman

This works equally well with the plumber, electrician, etc. You choose! Your partner, a jack of all trades, rings the bell. You greet this manly figure in your new satin nightdress and let him in. You flirt a bit while he rummages through his toolbox. Ideally, draw this part out for a while. Then, when your repairman actually starts to 'repair' something, you lean over him, brushing past him with the narrowest of margins... an essential step for increasing levels of arousal

Why it so hot?

 The surprise, unexpected encounter. It's an "I like you, you like me, let's get on with it" kind of situation. Often, this experience turns out to be much more exciting in role playing situations than in real life!



Now, I have helped you out a little, now stop being lazy and do the rest on your own!!! Stop being so uptight and have fun!!!!!!  Its really ok :-)

ATTN: ALL MEN PLEASE READ!!!!!! NAKED WOMEN BELOW

      OK, I lied! But guess what! It's my blog and I can lie if I want!!!!!! You men know your attention is one thing, so I had to grab it the best way I could!!! But I wanted to offer a little advice for you too! Make your girl feel special! and NOT JUST ON HOLIDAYS! Every girl wants to feel like she matters! Make that special effort to make her smile. Send her Flowers, Let her pick the movie, Plan a Date night (and not just any date, have her outfit ready with a note saying "be ready at 6pm") Take CHARGE MAN! Women love that! As women, we are aware that  most men are not romantic by nature, but appreciate your guys at least giving it a try!  Surprise her with her with a new fragrance that will make all her friends green with envy! Matter of fact, I have the perfect site for you to check out!

                                                                 http://www.shopsincerelyyours.com
My personal fav is Suga Kisses but all of them will have your woman very happy that you chose either one of these amazing products for her! Trust me!!!! She will not be disappointed!

                                                                  

Just remind her that your care! Rather you've been together 3 months or 3 years, ALWAYS make her feel like she's still your favorite girl....It Matters!

Well Muffins,
 Hopefully I Will be hearing tons of stories (ummmm no need to get too detailed) Remember to have fun!!!!  Hope you enjoyed this Blog!!! PLEASE Follow and Tell your Friends to do so!!!!

Love Ya,
Kell

                    OH!!!!!!! Before I forget!

                                      

                                                                                    Kisses!

                                                           UPDATE!!!

So I've been running all day, Grocery Shopping, Makeup runs, trying to transform myself from My edgy usual self to Little Miss Stepford Wife. Apron, Polka Dress and Pearls, and June Cleaver Red Lipstick! Here was my look

Not Bad Huh!!!!

                                                                                         

Well anyway , I told Corey we were going to a restaurant we had been trying to go to, and to be ready by 3! I hit the stores first thing this morning! Running for groceries, props, candles, and everything else I needed to pull off this surprise! What was on the menu???? Steak, Shrimp Scampi, Grilled Tilapia, Roasted Garlic Asparagus and a Loaded Baked Potato! Oooooh, and when Corey and I first started dating, he told me that his Grandmother would make him a cake every year and it was his absolute fav! So Yup, Yellow Cupcakes with Chocolate Frosting Topped with Walnuts! Yum!!! See, I will be the first to admit, I can cook basic but I get so overwhemed cooking and rushing! (and I never made steak before, DONT JUDGE ME, I don't eat red meat!)  But I think I did very well for my first time. So after a burn, and bad cut, and 2 broken nails, My Feast was Ready

                                                                              

                 I decorated my table, made a  Peach Rasperry Lemon Drop Martini and waited in my 1950's dress and pink pumps for my honey to arrive! And............................



                                             HIS FACE WAS PRICELESS

 

He had no idea, So which means I did my job!

That smile made my hard work all worth it!

 

 

 

                               
OK GUYS, YOUR TURN!!!!!

lOVE YA!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Daring Deceptions..... Beauty on a Budget!!

Hi Guys!!!

Were almost to the weekend!!! Ahhh, The weekend! I LIVE FOR THEM! I was laying here thinking, hmmmmm,  maybe I should do one of my favorite things Saturday.And what would that be??? SHOPPING!!! BUT not just any shopping! MAKEUP SHOPPING!!! I love it! All types!!! Of course, I have my favorites that I know, I will never replace  or use anything other than it! But recently I have been addicted to research and found some AMAZING alternatives that are just as good and even better CHEAPER (Honey, I love a deal)  Recently,I found a cool article that gave so many great ideas on pinterest! So I pinned it, and when I went back AND IT WAS GONE!!!!  (DEVASTATING) So anyway, Let me share with you I have personally tried and found onlibe and may I add very impressed!!!!



Now yall know, I have expressed my love beforefor Nyx cosmetics! I love love love them!!!! I also love Mac, its was actually the only  makeup I ever bought...But thou has opened thine eyes and I am no longer a Makeup Snob! I use it all! If I hate it, guess what, I just don't buy it again, and my daughter, Amaya adds it to her collection! A 10 year old, with a makeup collection, wow I wish I was that lucky as a child!

Anyway back on subject! I literally stumbled accross this Dupe while shopping for something else, it has become my favorite Dupes by far!!! Wait, I'm sorry! Whats a Dupe???  I like to call it a MAKEUP DECEPTION, same quality, but usually much cheaper. So what did I find?? Nyx Lip Pencils!! They come is several amazing colors and are just as good as my usual Mac Lip Pencils. I started using Mac Chesnut Pencils with my Ooh Baby Gloss Years ago ( didn't everyone do that, I know you did) Anyways, I was out shopping and came accross this Nyx Expresso pencil...Heyyyy that looks like my Chesnut Pencil, but its $12 cheaper, hmmmmmm.  Now I am very particular about any makeup. I had a terrible reaction in high school that has scared me for life!!!! So I'm thinking, should I try it? What if I break out?? Ok, I'm going to try it and pray for the best! And Guess what, YUP I loved it!!!!!  And have been using it ever since, I actually found this comparison pic online

 

I Know!! You can thank me later for saving you a few bucks :-)

Here's another one of my favs!!! I love Nyx's Liner in Prune! It's pretty much identical to Mac's Plum (Hence the Name resemblance)  


                            Nyx Prune $3.50

                           Mac Plum $ 15.00

                        (kinda hard to see that image, but I wouldn't lie to you, its pretty darn identical)  


Finding such a deal, I knew it had to some other good deceptions out there!! Here's some other fun one's I found online, Now keep in mind, I can't vouch from some of these, I just seen them and they all look like they are worth a try


                      Wet n Wild 908C/MAC Rebel

                                                                         
                                                                        
Glamfession- I Kellee Charlise is absolutely in love with The Wet&Wild Megalast Collection!!!! The Matte finish it gives your lips is life changing and I promise it will last all night!!! Just so you know.....continuing.....

               
                MAC Pink Noveau/ Revlon Stormy Pink

Now, I think you guys will be trying this alone, because I although I would love to save some money, I LOVE ME SOME PINK NOVEAU! I pair it with Nyx Prune pencil and gloss it with  my Mac Enchantee kissable color (so cute) Now they discontinued Enchantee so someone please find me a Dupe of it!!!!!!! Please and thank you!!! 



                     MAC Myth/ELF Natural Nymph

                                               I myself have never tried ELF lipstick, I like Wet&Wilds Bare it all..It gives a Matte look, this look is giving me a creamy finish. I will try it. Elf cosmetics are super inexpensive and  pretty good!

          Viva Glam Gaga/ Revlon's Colourburst Lipstick in Baby Pink

Now, after searching high and low for this lipstick, It was sold out everywhere! Leave it to my Honey to find it (Thanks Boo)  So I was ecstatic to try it! And it's a winner! I don't wear it often, but the pink it is definitely popping! I would try the Dupe too!!!

                                                  
                     Mac Snob/Revlon Pink Pout

Um I have never tried either, But wow the resemblance is pretty convincing

                                                      


                                                                             


                            Can't forget Shadows

                                                             
     Lately, I have been living for BLUSH!!! I just started wearing it this year and I am mad I have been missing out all these years
                                                              
                                                                   
                   MAC Style blush/ Rimmel blush Peach   

 

 

 

NYX Pinched (left), NARS Orgasm (right)

 

 

 

 

Wow, After finding these I may have to try them all! I know, ALL things cheaper don't always turn out to be a good thing. Sometimes you really do get what you pay for CHEAP! . But all these alternative products, I have tried and I love them all. Will I love them more then the original?? Who knows, But I'm sure willing to try. Sure I will continue to shop at Mac (probably a little too much) But its still cool to have a back up when you wanna do Beauty on a Budget! Will you try it??? Please let me know, What you tried and your review on it.

I also found this crazy website when you can actually input your favorite and it will give give you a Dupe for it!

(ummmm SAVING TO FAVORITES)

     No worries! Of course I will share it with you guys!

http://www.temptalia.com/makeup-dupe-list

 

 

 

       So there you Go!!! Love you guys!!!! Have Fun!

 

 

Role Play?????????

Well....
It's Friday night, and what am I doing, in my bed, eating, drinking a Frozen Lemonade and  BLOGGING! Its cool, I don't mind, It feels like a 2 degrees out and the comfort of my warm room feels pretty effin amazing! What brings me to the Blogfession (did I just make that up, Hmmmm I like it). The topic of changing who you are, WITHOUT changing who you are! Sounds confusing huh?? Well let me explain. I the fact when someone sees me, they are so surprised at the person they are getting!!  Why, because I get bored with CONSISTENCY!!  I know, I know, they old saying, If it ain't broke then don't fix it! If you find something that looks good on you, stick with it!! NOPE, I have my own saying! Been there, loved it, moving on to find something I love a little MORE!!!!  So whats the best way to spice up who you are....DUH its HAIR!!!!!!!

Something as simple as changing your hair can make you feel like a new woman!! I walk in the salon feeling like a soccer mom, and walk out feeling like a video vixen!!! A good hairstyle will have you prancing like you're Beyonce! (trust me, I swear I'm shooting a video sometimes)  It can make you feel like a new you! Like your playing a role! Ever since I was a little girl I have always wanted to be a actress! (Hence the Drama Queen title everyone has given me!!! Shame on yall!) Anyway So since God has given me a different role in life, I choose to play my roles with my styles! ! So rather I'm feeling spicy, sweet, edgy, I run to the salon! I swear a great hairstylist can change your life!!!! And Mine is the greatest  


                                                                 HE TAKES ME TO THIS........

                                                                       from this..............

Back to this.............

So let me start by giving a Big Shout out to my stylist of 15 years (Yea that long, and I ain't going no where)  BIG ROY!!! When I say this man keeps getting better, I tell you the truth!! I rarely go in the salon with a picture and say I WANT THIS! Why? Because I trust him with my hair and I know he will not disappoint me! Rather its my natural hair or a weave I always leave with confidence, a smile, and a earful of compliments!!  Ok, back to hair....Now I know I'm just a beauty school drop out( DON'T YOU DARE JUDGE ME) But  I do know a little about hair. So I will give you some  personal advice.  God Knows I  love my weaves, but if they are not done (and removed)  correctly they can damage your hair ...so I do my best to protect my natural hair. If I had the choice I would rather get all my weaves  sewn it, BUT because I love variety and change my hair so much,  that would be so much money wasted...so what do I do I opt for hair bonding glue.  I know, all that pulling can be a strain on your natural hair so what have they done!!! Someone has created my best friend and its called Salon Pro 30 Sec Weave Wonder Wrap!!! This is the best thing since pockets!!! It's designed to prepare, preserve and condition the hair during various gluing and weaving procedures. The wrapping foundation not only Provides ease during the process but it also imparts strength and keratin to the hair through the delivery of nutrients and conditioners!!!!! Now I love my weaves But caring for my natural hair is important to me. So products like these help me along the way!!!


So all you ladies out there, saying what you can't rock, and won't look good on you! TRY IT first! Who would have ever thought I would've thought at 32, I would be rocked a shaved side! Well....maybe I'm a bad example because I have always been a little insane, but you get the picture! Switch it up! Give people a shock value when you walk in the office...You will be so surprised at the new walk you will have!!!! I walked in the salon today feeling terrible! I was tired, grumpy, recovering from a flat tire, hungry( shall I go on)....So my Stylist switched me up!!!!!  I went from Appolonia to Mary J.......

Not only did he change my hair, but my attitude has changed!!  So it really doesn't matter how you rock it..BLONDE, BALD,RED,LONG,SHORT,SHAVED,KINKY, CURLY, STRAIGHT,WIGS.....Just remember to ROCK THE HELL OUT OF IT!!!!!

Good Luck!!!!  I get asked all the time  HOW CAN I SHAVE MY HEAD... My reply:  RELAX!!!  Its just hair!!! Have fun Yall!!!!!!

Oh, Btw....It also helps in the bedroom! Make your Lil Cupcake feel he's with a new woman! Change your name and Boom....he will love it!

Relationships Are a Breeze.....Right?????? Here's some rules to help you along the way

Evening Yall!

Hope everyone had a great Holiday! I don't know about you, but ME, I am glad it over!!!!! That Hustle and Bustle stresses me out like crazy! Anywho, I came across this article and I wanted to share it with everyone. I think no matter who you are, we can  agree that relationships are hard work! Relationships are kinda like skinny jeans, easy to get into but hard as heck to maintain yourself in them!  As much as I love my guy and I do mean I love him...The longer we are together, the harder is to maintain our relationship. I guess its because you have so much time and love invested, you want to do WHATEVER to have a successful relationship! So that brings me to the article....and we both agreed that this was some pretty handy info! The article is about marriage but I think all relationships apply!!! Check it out :-)

10 Unspoken Marriage Rules You Must Follow

By Dawn Papandrea


Every married person knows to be faithful, stay truthful and be there for her partner through good times and bad--they're in the wedding vows, after all. But most seasoned couples would admit that some unspoken rules are vital for getting past rough patches and growing stronger as a couple. Here, experts share 10 of the less apparent (but just as important) marriage rules to live by.

1. Don't criticize your partner's parents or friends. You know how it is-your family can tick you off but no one else had dare speak ill of them. That's why you should tread carefully with your in-laws and your husband's dearest friends. "Even when he's venting to you, your contributions can put him on the defensive," explains LeslieBeth Wish, EdD, a Florida-based psychologist and licensed clinical social worker. "When you take position A, you prompt your partner to take position B." Instead, says Dr. Wish, put yourself in his position so that you can empathize with him.

2. Tell your spouse about any ex encounters. Whether you get a Facebook friend request or run into an old flame at your kid's soccer game, keeping the news to yourself could backfire, despite having zero feelings for the ex. "If there's nothing to hide, why hide it?" says Deb Castaldo, PhD, a couples and family therapist and professor at Rutgers University School of Social Work in New Brunswick, NJ. "That leads to an air of secrecy and dishonesty," she says. Just clue in your hubby matter-of-factly: Try, "I knew it was only a matter of time before old boyfriends came out of the woodwork on Facebook. I got a friend request from one and ignored it." Or, "I saw my ex in the mall today. His kids are cute. Glad to see his life turned out nicely."

3. Keep unsolicited advice to yourself. Offer your support, lend your ear, but avoid speaking in an "I know what's best" tone. "We give advice because we're trying to be helpful, but it's seen as criticism when we offer too many corrections," says Harriet Lerner, PhD, clinical psychologist and author of Marriage Rules: A Manual for the Married and the Coupled Up. This goes for everything from your husband's outfit choices to how he deals with a work issue. Give your spouse space to make decisions and gain confidence through trial and error-and ask that he do the same for you, says Dr. Lerner. "What matters in a relationship is not that things get done 'right,' but that two people are dedicated to contributing to each other's happiness."

4. Don't take charge all the time. Whether you fold all the laundry because you don't like how your husband does it or you manage the finances because you don't think he's as careful, you may feel more at ease doing all the work. But stop! "The spouse who does the rescuing can become tired of that role," says Dr. Wish--and resentful that everything is on her shoulders, even if she volunteered for that burden. Get in the habit of asking your partner, "What do you think works best here?" or telling him, "I could use a hand cleaning out the pantry." These requests will foster the idea that you're teammates.

5. Don't bring up past arguments. Or at least put a statute of limitations on them. "People repeat ancient disagreements because they haven't resolved the problem," says Dr. Castaldo. Letting things fester often causes marriages to break down, she says. It's important to address issues as they happen and come to some sort of resolution--agreeing to disagree counts. "Leave it there, and respect each other's opinion," she says.

6. Choose your battles, but don't stifle your feelings. "There's going to be toothpaste globs here and Post-it notes there; that's human nature," says Dr. Wish. "You have to be able to say, 'this isn't important.'" Or if it is, speak up. "Tell your partner why it bothers you and that you'd like to work on a solution," suggests Dr. Wish. You'd be surprised what you could learn about each other. For instance, your husband may not leave dirty dishes in the sink anymore if you explain that your childhood home was piled high with plates and you were stuck washing them. It's also important to understand that he's not plotting to upset you every time he's sloppy or forgetful. A simple request like: "Honey, it'd be great if you could pick up the dry cleaning while you're out" beats getting mad that he didn't offer to help with errands.

7. Don't post private thoughts or photos publicly. You may not want to be tagged in a politically charged rant he starts or he may not want you to share photos of the kids. And you each deserve the other person's respect for those wishes. "Discuss the ground rules regarding posting about yourself, as a couple and about the other person," says Dr. Castaldo. And no matter what, don't take your grievances with your husband to the masses for support. "It's destructive to air conflicts on Facebook," she warns.

8. Log off. When your attention is focused elsewhere, your spouse is bound to feel unimportant. So make quality time a top priority and restrict tech gadget use if necessary, says Dr. Wish. "Pay attention to the concept of ratio: How much time am I spending doing this compared to how much time I'm spending with my family?" she says. Create a rule that works for your household and stick to it, whether it's no devices at the dinner table, shutting down phones at 8 p.m. or going gadget-free on weekend afternoons.

9. Don't use the "D" word (divorce, that is). Even in the heat of an argument, avoid threatening to pack your bags or head to the lawyer's office. Besides the "D" word being downright hurtful, repeated warnings may result in a spouse calling the other's bluff. "We act as if the intensity of our anger gives us license to say or do anything," says Dr. Lerner. "But threatening divorce is never useful, and it only makes the probability of separation more likely."
 
                                                                   (See below for my favorite)
10. Be each other's number one. In other words, be wary of outsider influence, like a friend putting relationship-threatening ideas in your head or work or hobbies competing for your attention. "Happy couples have just as much conflict as those who divorce, but they know ways to get through it," says Dr. Castaldo. "A couple has to have a strong boundary around themselves and they can't allow anybody to get in between."



Simple right????? Lol....Well its worth a try!!! I'm gonna try them all since they all seem so helpful....